I Can’t Concentrate On Work Due To Lack Of Sex

downloadDear Readers,
I am a 36-year-old man and my wife is 33-years-old. We have a 3 year old kid. Our sex life was fine till she got pregnant in mid 2013. After child birth, my wife is not interested in sex. Initially, while having intercourse, she used to experience pain and a burning sensation for which she consulted her gynecologist, who prescribed some medicines which were taken by my wife and she seemed to be fine after that. But, she is still not interested in having sex, though she wants me to hug, kiss, fondle and caress her.
I have a high sex drive, whereas my wife lacks it completely. I am frustrated as I am sex starved. I am unable to concentrate on my work due to lack of sex. When I try to discuss the same with my wife she doesn’t seem to understand my problem and says, “Why should we have sex as we are not planning to have any more babies.” Please help.

12 Responses to "I Can’t Concentrate On Work Due To Lack Of Sex"

  1. Mpandamano   September 5, 2016 at 6:10 pm

    Have you informed your bashibukomnbe or Bana chimbusa nangu you have just kept it to yourself we mwaume we

    • Ninao   September 5, 2016 at 6:26 pm

      Ba mpandamano, She is getting it from somewhere else! Why are you beating about the bush!!!!?????

  2. Chief Analyst   September 5, 2016 at 9:14 pm

    Sex resides in the brain and if one does not feel like doing it then something is wrong. Where was she taught that Sex is only for manufacturing babies? You say she enjoys touching her here and there but she would not let you go between and that you do not concentrate on your work as a result…..then both of you have psychological problems patterning to self image and need sexual guidance and counseling alongside psycho sexual investigations.

  3. Ninao   September 5, 2016 at 10:55 pm

    bachief, I agree to a good level of your comment. But I still insist that the fact that She goes to an extent of wanting to hug and cuddle and touch her and there? No that is not right if She does not intend to bunji jump at all!! Coz the Brother is left in the called. . . . Halo? were is She getting the Bunjying from??????

  4. KANITUNDILA KA KOLWE   September 6, 2016 at 8:50 pm

    Marriage is not only about sex. You can continue with marriage even without it. Why are you complaining Bwana?

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  7. jairos   September 8, 2016 at 10:34 am

    Intimacy is necessary and if she is not providing it to you, who does she give. The Bible says this about sex at 1 Corinthians 7:2-6; “but because of the prevalence of sexual immorality, let each man have his own wife and each woman have her own husband. 3 Let the husband give to his wife her due, and let the wife also do likewise to her husband. 4 The wife does not have authority over her own body, but her husband does; likewise, the husband does not have authority over his own body, but his wife does. 5 Do not deprive each other except by mutual consent for an appointed time, so that you may devote time to prayer and may come together again, in order that Satan may not keep tempting you for your lack of self-control. 6 However, I say this by way of concession, not as a command”. If that lady does not know this then report her to her grandma or the counsellors. She is putting your on a dangerous path like what verse 1 says. You are an honest man!

  8. Bush crew   September 8, 2016 at 1:12 pm

    Thank you so much for sharing this with us bro.I have seen comments that your wife is getting it from somewhere else that is not true bro.Have you tried to see some pastor?if you have tried and there is no change,please try watch doctors.I had bro who had the same problem but no it is no more.Chokocha is one of the best watch doctors who can help you.

  9. mmc   September 8, 2016 at 1:55 pm

    welcome to shipikisha club. icupo mwana banafye so if she has given you a child continue shipikishaling

  10. ndapfidza   September 9, 2016 at 2:38 pm

    ba zed christians,hw do u advise som1 to see a pastor,and if it does not work, seek help from sangomas/witch doctors? I think we hav more problems than th dude who is not shugging th wife in th article above. anyway, my advise to u br is marry wife # 2. we hv always been polygamists sinc tym in memorial coz women ar mor than men,hence thy cant all b taken if tak one for each. ths way,u will shuggy as u pliz n th women will b competing for u,later on,u will concentrate in yo work,imagin!!!!!

  11. jackson   September 12, 2016 at 1:27 pm

    the gup in yeas with yo wife is small find yo agement u start enjoying sex